Dalton Ott from Serious Bondage posted a great article a few weeks ago (which you can read for yourself here). In it he discusses his personal experience of bondage, and what he seeks to get out of it - and more interestingly to me - what he doesn't.
I always find it fascinating to hear others talk about their bondage preferences, because although a lot of the gear is the same, the experience is unique for each individual.
The more I understand about people's individual twists and kinks, the more I find unique and subtle differences. Everyone has their own life experiences and viewpoints, personalities and desires, and there are so many ways to experience mental and physical journeys through this kind of gear and play.
Wendy and I are extremely fortunate that our synergy fits perfectly with our needs and desires. When I ask "tighter?" or "More?" the answer is usually "Yessss." And certainly there is different bondage for our different times and moods. Sometimes it is full leather encasement with a light touch of my hands or fingertips. Other times restrictive straps and torments, and the sobs and cries that go along with being used. Everyone is different, folks. If you are lucky enough to have a partner(s) that knows you and your mind, and it fits well with what they need.... Mannn! Good on you! Jim (justjimandwendy)
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DeleteI probably won't be the first to tell you, but you sound like a lucky man to have Wendy! And I'm sure she feels the same way about you, too. I'm also fortunate to have a great life partner and to have many of my deepest darkest dreams made real. And (better yet) more to come...
sorry for being so slow catching up on things, but i just now read this one (and the link).
ReplyDeletei totally agree with that sentiment: it's a way to get a release that isn't like a normal thing. it's a release from having to be in charge of your own life. i think that's why the nana to kaoru manga hit me so hard: she's super stressed in life, but being able to be tied up and controlled every so often give her the safe way to let the structure imposed on her by society be pushed off, so she can be herself if only for a short time.
i just wish everyone could get this if they wanted it. like as a therapy option. :)
No problem, sammy... Thanks for the comment. For me, it's definitely about stress relief, and the opportunity to really let go. The best possible therapy "session." =0)
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